Adam & Eve

Everyone is searching for that relationship that will fill their deepest longing. When you are single, the tendency is to be searching for that potential date. You then think that everything will be fine and your problems will be solved when you find that perfect person made just for you. Tell me then, why are there so many married people still longing for that relationship? Adam and Eve, they were the perfect couple. The first three chapters of the bible are filled with so much awe and wonder. First, there is the "Big Bang". Then, we move from having a perfect relationship with God, a perfect relationship with our mate, to the fall. The curse is cast upon mankind and relationships are broken. We are always consumed, for the rest of our lives, in finding that perfect person to help make us complete. It all started with wanting to know more. The trouble with knowing more is that your innocence is lost, and because you chose to loose that innocence, you blame others. It is a vicious cycle that most of us remain in for the rest of our lives. That is the cycle we bring into our marriages and that has been the destruction of the family. That triune cell built by father, mother, and child. That is the image of God on earth and that is what Satan is out to destroy.

Adam was the perfect man. He walked with God. He was made in the perfect image of God. He was strong and kind, but he failed his wife. He did not seek God first, this time. "In that moment of small rebellion something large, beautiful and free was shattered. God's perfect creation. Adam was separated from God by his desire to act on his own. The effect on a plate glass window is the same whether a pebble or a boulder is hurled at it- the thousands of fragments can never be regathered." He failed by not seeking God in his desire. He should have been the leader and led Eve away from the tree. His first loyalty was to God. He chose to turn his back on what he knew was right. Then, he blamed God for his sin. He blamed Him for giving him the woman. He turned on God and directed his fear and rebellion at God, instead of turning to God for help. The curse was cast, "...the ground is cursed because of you. All your life you will struggle to scratch a living from it...." (Genesis 3:17-19). The curse was set. From now on instead of turning to God when Adam had trouble with his wife, he would turn to work and demand work and the world to fix his problems.

Eve, the perfect woman made for man, made to be his helper. She shared equally with Adam every blessing he had been given. Even the blessing of working beside him as his equal. "Together they were greater than either could have been alone... Satan helped Eve shift her focus from all that God had done and given to the one thing He had withheld. And Eve was willing to accept Satan's viewpoint without checking with God." Her focus was changed from loving and appreciating all that she had, to desiring to know more. She wanted to be wise. Satan tempted her with what he was tempted by, and that was to be like God. When she was caught, she blamed Satan. The curse was cast, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you," (Genesis 3:16). The curse was set. From now on her desire would be for her husband instead of her God and her husband would rule over her instead of working along side her.

It has been this way since the beginning. We are searching for the perfect mate, the perfect relationship. The problems arise because of the curse. The woman is constantly in need and her neediness toward her husband pushes him away. The man cannot fix everything so he separates himself and turns to work and the world, so he can now hide from the stresses at home. What they don't realize is that this is all part of the curse. The separation from wanting to turn to God first. We fall into the constant trap of the curse, and that is our desire to turn to something else, someone else, anything else, instead of God. Woman, man cannot fix that need inside you. Man, the world and work can never give you that intimacy you desire. That stuff cannot make you strong. God is the only thing that can fill that place inside you. That place the curse of wanting more has given you. God's place has been replaced.