Wife / Slave

1 Peter 2:18-25, "You who are slaves must accept the authority of your masters with all respect. Do what they tell you—not only if they are kind and reasonable, but even if they are cruel. For God is pleased with you when you do what you know is right and patiently endure unfair treatment...For God called you to do good, even if it means suffering, just as Christ suffered for you. He is your example, and you must follow in his steps. (3:1-6) In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over by observing your pure and reverent lives...."

Many times people see marriages, as marriages, but there is another side. Sometimes when you are married, you are not in a marriage, but you find that you are a slave. That kind of marriage is the hardest, for you are bound in slavery to the one that said they would love and cherish you. You are bound in slavery, and in slavery, there is really no justice or fairness. You are a slave to the temper, evil desires, and cruelty of another person. I would have to say that being under the title of wife is the cruelest part. When your husband is neglectful, mean, and selfish you find yourself in the loneliest place. Mainly because others are saying that you are not alone, he is with you. But what they do not see is the severe suffering that someone in that position is going through.

The hardest thing is to do what we should, even if the other person is wrong. In our obedience, we are to obey God first. He is our true master, but then give our husbands the respect they have obtained by the title they carry. So I give this charge to you women, who have found that you are actually slaves. Learn who Christ is. Learn how He would act, so you can respond as He would respond. Get on your knees and pray to your savior to come and rescue you. He will hear your prayers. He will give you the strength that you need to endure and make the appropriate choices. I failed on this charge, for I sinned in my obedience to my husband. With my sin in our marriage, I found that I was the one that was wrong. Don't do this. Gain strength from your Lord. Surround yourself with other women who will encourage you. Never try to do this alone, for you will be overcome with his sin upon you.

Take courage is this as well, the rest of 1 Peter3:7, "In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered." If you find yourself in this situation, consider yourself to be the one with God on your side. Your savior is listening to you and not to your husband, for his prayers are hindered by his actions toward you. Rejoice that your God is the God of justice and love. Rejoice that with His help, we can endure all things. Get on your knees every morning and petition to God your struggles. His army is mighty and His strength is great. He will hear you, so speak to Him.

Just to let you know, I am truly sorry if you are this woman. I failed in this battle, but you do not have to. Gain strength, take courage, for the Lord is on your side.