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There was a time in my past that I was so hurt; I became mean, bitter, just down right rude. I was so disgusted by men. I would be nice to their face, but all the while thinking how pathetic they were. I respected very few of them, if that. They were weak.

Right after I got married, for the second time, I got pregnant. I begged God to give me a little girl. I hated men, so how could I raise one. Well, in his mighty knowledge, he gave me a little boy. I guess Eric, my first born, was about 4 to 6 months old. My husband and I were driving and I was bashing men, as usual. My husband turned to me, pointed in the back seat and said, "What you say about men, he will turn out to be. You are raising a man." This hit home. God answered my prayers. I needed a man child to soften my bitter and broken heart. My goals have changed. Instead of tearing every man down, I want to build them up. I want to help marriages. I want my house to be open for anyone, including men. (When the opposite sex is in our house, both of us are here. I don't go that far, we do have house rules to keep us in check.)

In Matthew 5:22-32, it talks about adultery and divorce. "But I say, if anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his eye has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Men are visual. A man can look at a woman and get all the fix that he needs. In the club that I worked in, we would be on stage for two songs. Then we would rotate stages. The first song we would dance with our clothes still on. I could never understand why I would make just as many tips during that song as I did the second, when the clothes would come off. The imagination is a very strong thing. Don't get me wrong, women are just as guilty about porn. Most women just get their fix with romance novels. The imagination goes wild when it is left unchecked. That is why many times people think that something, anything other than what they already have is going to be great, but after they get it they are left disappointed. Reality is never as good as your imagination. I feel sorry for women and men who are battling against their spouses addiction to pornography. The spouse will always loose. No one can compete with what is imagined. Viagra would loose its business if men would get out of porn. Yes, some men need it because of medical conditions. Give me a break, not that many men are impotent. I never had any difficulty getting any reaction when I was in the club, not one time. (Okay, that was harsh) People fall in love with something that is not real. Your spouse is enough. If a wife is not "doing it" for her husband, if he doesn't get excited just by being near her; look at what he is focusing on. If people would just stop fixating on the illusions that someone else is better, many marriages would be saved.

In Matthew 5:32 it talks about unfaithfulness and that is an "excuse" to get a divorce. In my commentary it says, "This does not mean that divorce should automatically occur when a spouse commits adultery. The word translated "unfaithful" implies a sexually immoral life-style, not a confessed and repented act of adultery. Those who discover that their partner has been unfaithful should first make every effort to forgive, reconcile, and restore their relationship. We are always to look for reasons to restore the marriage relationship rather than for excuses to leave it." Matthew 6:14-15, "If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins." Commentary, "When we don't forgive others, we are denying our common ground as sinners." Matthew 7:1-5, talks about helping to get the speck in someone's eye when their is a log in yours. Commentary, "The traits that bother us in others are often the habits we have ourselves."

Before you bash someone for living a certain way, before you condemn a man for falling into temptation, look at what you are doing behind closed doors. What kind of fantasies are you living in. Pornography, strip clubs, prostitution, and yes romance novels are never the answer for a good life. (Don't forget those girls who work in that lifestyle, they are not the enemy. They are hurt because of this lie, probably more than anyone. My heart cries for all of them.) That life is only an illusion that will destroy everyone involved. The only answer to a good life is a softened heart, living in forgiveness for ourselves and others, looking to Christ for our pleasure instead of worldly things, and living to the best of our ability as Christ wants us to live.